I just happened to find your blog. I like it- a lot. I'll be here frequently.

Most blogs seem to attract "highly opinionated" (read that "prejudiced") bloggers, who seem to always be making racially charged, sometimes almost violent statements, without stopping to hear others' opinions and thoughts.

Even if something I say might be poorly thought out, or even outright wrong, I'm always open to being "called " on it. I certainly don't have all the answers.

I promise to always come here as much to listen, as to speak.

Peace

Great work! I love your blog. I just received Michelle Alexanders book, "The New Jim Crow" This is priceless information for the black community. Keep up the good work!

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"Public Montessori": Still Separate, Still Unequal

It never ceases to amaze me how some things simply don't change. For example, it amazes me how administrators and teachers refuse to speak to African-Americans and Latinos and then have the audacity to walk into a classroom filled with African-American and Latino children. For those of you who have been brainwashed by the term "Montessori" and assume that your child is getting a quality education, think again. For the most part, these schools are infested with administrators and teachers who have predetermined notions concerning "those people in the inner city". They are arrogant within their own ignorance and act accordingly.

Yes, I know. You were fooled by the "nice building", the "nice website", the "nice literature" handed to you at the open house, and the "nice people" giving you that phony grin. They spoke to you about independence, self-motivation, and self-discipline, right? And if the school is a magnet school, they threw that in your face also. The administration is fully aware that parents are so brainwashed that they believe the presence of white students is equivalent to prestige. They even pepper their conversations with the word "diversity" to mask their discriminatory practices. Everything from the literature to the assemblies to the "cultural affairs" are designed to make the parents and the public think that public Montessori schools are friendly family oriented atmospheres that encourage respect for all people regardless of race, sex, class, ethnicity, or religious preference.

Allow me to enlighten you. A school that uses Montessori materials doesn't make it a Montessori school. Parents, please do the research. A "public Montessori" and a private Montessori are two very different things (same mentality, different entities). If the school is predominantly African-American and Latino, you better believe that the school is probably plagued with a hostile work environment, a climate of disrespect, low standards, and blatant discriminatory practices.

If you don't believe me, just walk around these "public Montessori" schools. The administrators are probably all white. The teachers are probably white with a few well seasoned Uncle Toms in the mix to make it look good. The teacher's aides can be anybody because they are invisible, overworked, underpaid, and disrespected. Ironically, it is the teacher's aide who knows more about your child than anyone else in the building. Teacher's aides tutor your child individually in reading, writing, and math. They are the ones who make sure that the classroom environment is conducive for learning. They are ones who supervise the entire classroom while the teacher may be sitting with one or a small group of students. They are the eyes and ears for the entire classroom. They are the ones who ensure a safe environment for your children during recess. The teacher's aides are the ones who keep abreast of behavioral and academic issues. The administrators and teachers are aware of this fact and try their best to keep teacher's aides from telling parents what really goes on behind closed doors. The teachers take the credit, have a better salary, and have more benefits, but it is the teacher's aide that keeps the boat afloat. Before you decide to send your child to any school, ask to speak to each teacher's aide privately.

The same people who think your children are inferior, the same people who will not open their mouths to say "Good morning", the same people who don't look like you, don't live in your neighborhood, and wouldn't think about sending their children to same schools your children go to, are the same ones who are "evaluating" your child. These are the "specialists" who are suggesting that your child be in special education (or the jail and drug track). These are the people who are creating labels for a population they know nothing about.

Of course, there are two sides to every story. Why aren't these tax paying parents questioning this nonsense? Why aren't parents questioning the "good old white girl network"? If the student population is predominantly African-American and Latino, where are the African-American and Latino teachers? And don't let the fact that you may see people "of color" fool you. The administration will purposely hire people "of color" from foreign countries, those who have a lower opinion concerning African-Americans and Latinos than anyone in the building. The administration, therefore, maintains control by putting the "divide and conquer" game in motion. Likewise, don't let the fact that the head of personnel may be African-American or Latino. If they weren't willing to sell their souls for $2.50, they would have never been a candidate for the position in the first place. Why are the board members, the principal, the vice principal, the office manager, the nurse, etc. all Caucasian? Children learn most by what they see. Imagine the impact this has on the mind of your African-American or Latino child. I don't care how often they use the word "diversity", they are still teaching white supremacy. Oh yes, and did I mention the fact that some of the teacher's aides are being asked to give the white students special treatment? Yes, Caucasian students and parents are being wined and dined by administrators and teachers alike so they can continue to grace us with their presence.

As long as parents are content to rest upon the laurels of generations prior, the educational system will never work for our children. Parents have to step up and take responsibility for the education of their children. The employees who dare tell the truth about blatant discriminatory practices are being told by some puppet in human resources that it's just "your perception". This is the modern method by which racist institutions take cover. Don't depend on the employees to fight for your children because they are being silenced, harassed until they quit, or fired. "Public Montessori" is just another lie wrapped up in a pretty package.

My son was reading about the young man that committed hung himself because he can relate to how the young man felt. Every and I mean EVERY single day my son has been bullied at school. The school has worked with us, everyone at the school has worked with us but there are only so many counselors and so many teachers. Parents need to make the schools allow us to stand in the halls and sit in the class rooms. We as parents can't control what comes out of a childs mouth but education and presence is the best source. My son's school states "we don't need parents in the halls". Many of the children at my son's school parents either don't know that they are acting and talking this way or they to are this way, the mannerisms, vowl language etc. I called numerous mothers about their son's bulling my son, hmmm their comments were "Noone likes your son." or "Your son is a geek." or "Is your son gay." or the best of all "My son would never do that." I told each and every parent that I believe it takes to to tangle. My son has voiced on many occassions that he can't take it anymore. I have spoken to many counselors that have been willing to counselor him but after my intial visit with them they made statements like "I'll get this taken care of, he must have under lined issues." or the other counselor "Maybe he needs attention." or the one I thought could help him adapt to bullying (sad adapt, Wow he has to adapt) said 245.00 up front and 145.00 every hour after. So the parents that have high ethics and morals need to demand that schools allow us in the class rooms and in the halls to monitor with access to be able to make the child leave if bullying is taking place. The parents should be ticketed too. Heck why not, maybe if we hit the pocket book they will descipline their child. See what happens when schools aren't allowed to decipline the children any longer. What are the teachers and principles to do? The question my son asked today and he is 13 yrs old and we as a family are not predjudice, he asked "why do they keep saying this black child." Mom that's wrong, I am white and I get bullied everyday." As his Mom I ask too why does the word, "Black" keep coming up when things happen? Is it because our president is black? Not really sure, but I know we all bleed red and these are our children regardless of race, religion etc. I am sorry for the lady or ladies that have lost her son truly I am and it's great she is doing something about it, but please, please let's work as a team not race. My son has said he wants to die related to bullying. Wow, he is white, does it matter? NO. Please let's help each other.

Thanks for hearing me. As I ended this I had an after thought. Black, White, Mexican etc. isn't any better than the other but it makes me wonder that if we point out to our children, well we are white in an all Mexican school or they pick on you because you are black then our children feel race is an issue. It isn't just race, it about how we raise our children and what we do when they bully. Doesn't it start at home?

Let's please work together!

We should get every school involved intrying to help and so I will be do my best as an individual who loves my child not as a white woman. Anyone care to help?

HI Everyone: I just discovered your website. What a great idea! I had no clue there was such a site. I believe it goes a long way to help people understand the existing problems of race relations. I'm a white woman in her 70's. I grew up in an African-American neighborhood since my parents had a business there. All of my friends and playmates were children of color. It made me very sensitive to the racism I saw all around me in later life. I'd like to make two points. One is that racism, as well as sexism, and ageism, etc. exist because people use it as a coping mechanism to feel better about themselves. Putting someone down is an effective way to boost your own ego. People who feel good about themselves have no need to put someone down. Surveys have shown that college graduates are less likely to have prejudices towards others. The answer would be to foster positive self-esteem in young children in the early grades. It is more important than reading, wrilting, and arithmetic. Secondly, there is a bill in Congress to establish a Cabinet level Dept. of Peace. This would not only focus on international peace efforts, but would also introduce programs on non-violence within the school system. Check it out at www.thepeacealliance.org. It would go a long way towards resolving many existing problems.

Hi,

I would have to agree with LenaC. we really do need to start teaching peace at an early age. We have to start accepting responsibility for the things that we do and the things that we allow to happen. Our communities arent, going to change by themmselves, someone has to be brave enough to first step. If we do not change our commmunities, starting with our own families, no one else will. Being African American, i found "Why are So Many Black Men In Prison" to provide a very good amount of insight in to why the black community is the way it is. Bottom line, you have to fully understand where you came from in order to know and devise a plan for where your going

"If you do not understandWhite Supremancy(Racism)-what it is, and how it wokrs-everything else that you understand,will only confuse you." Neel Fuller, Jr. (1971) The United Independent Compensatory Code/System/Concept. The Seeds of Racism," A Mental Illness Orally Transmitted from One Generation to Another" says autheor Lee Miller. The ISIS PAPERS, The Keys to Colors, by Dr. Frances Cress Welsing, shares that people of colors are not minorities, but the majority. It shows how White Supremancy, controls people of color in all the areas of people activity, Education, Entertainment,Labor,Law,Politics, Religion,Sex,War,Economics, I like to add Health, as one who spoke out against the medical sytem over 30 years ago

I am a 43 year old "woman". I do not identify myself by race. I identify myself by gender only for the laughing matter. We need to stop with all the hate. Period. If we would teach the simple concept of "peace", at a very early age, to everyone, we would all be better off. In a "White" neighborhood the crimes are generally commited by "whites", and in a "hispanic" neighborhood.......by "hispanics", and so on. If you can't stand the changes in the world, move to a mountain top and create your own reality. The only thing that is proven to be constant is the fact that everything changes. I love unconditionally. I could care less what color you are as long as you are a decent human being and have love in your heart. Not everyone is prejudice.....Not everyone hates. Most people would just like the world to calm its ass down. Go back to the golden rule...and apply it to everyone. I personally have a rainbow family, and wouldn't trade anyone in it. We range from dark skin black, to ginger, to light skin freckle face white. Everyone brings something to our table that we wouldn't be complete without. So I plead with humanity to practice tolerance and love.....It is all that will save OUR world. Peace and Love to all.

Im a black woman who parter is a white woman. I was beat by five white policeman and front of my children ,parter and home. My parter(lover) is going to school to be a lawyer. I feel she dont understand my pain, she did nothing , I feel together as couple we could have sue the police. when obama stold up for his friend the teacher she said obama was wrong. again I told her she dont understand. At this moment, I feel alot of dislike towards her . I love her with all my heart, My life needs her . What can I do to make things better with me and her.

I was with my friend, Eagle Eyes recently…

…another unplanned occasion we often catch on the fly — to share and purge the unnecessary malarkey that preoccupies our thoughts.

As per usual our conversation started down one road — and before long — we’d taken several unexpected detours.

This time around, we took a protracted pit stop at Rajen Persaud’s book, Why Black Men Love White Women. We both have dog-eared and highlighted copies — and, we both have encouraged our other friends — independently — to purchase copies of their own.

During our brief, yet lively discussion, we pondered a particularly fascinating question Persaud addresses in his book: Are Black men choosing white women – or rejecting Black women?

Certainly, that discussion is too large in scope for this post; suffice it to say, Persaud’s book has given me fodder for MANY future posts.

My conversation with Eagle Eyes got me to thinking about cultural loyalty and creature comfort. Many Black women have told me that although they are open to dating outside their race, they love the comfort of being with a Black man.

They’ve also confessed to feeling “safe” in emotional and intimate relationships with Black men; and, a sense of pride and loyalty maintaining a Black household.

Interestingly, Sisters have also admitted to me that the haunting stings of slavery and the accompanying abuse at the hands of white men have prevented them from comfortably pursuing relationships with white men.

“Why would any Black woman,” one Sister asked me, “want to be with men who have deeply-rooted disrespect for us? It’s a game for them. Don’t let them fool you. Once burned, twice shy,” she said with confidence.

“Our features, thickness, and strength — our package — is an alluring prospect to take to bed — but, oh no, if you’re not half-white, rich, or a celebrity, a real relationship will not happen. We Sisters aren’t good enough for the average white guy. Just look at the numbers!”

Once burned [bitten], twice shy, I repeated. My mother often stated this idiom to me to keep me out of trouble. It suggests that when you’ve had a bad experience, you’re likely to shy away from being in the same situation.

But, as an adult, I wonder if this holds true if the bad experience happens to you indirectly?

This brings me back to Persaud’s question: Are Black men choosing white women – or rejecting Black women?

For Persaud’s question raises related issue for me — the issue of cunning white women with their bag o’ tricks.

She’s the one you see on the evening news with tears in her eyes, fright in her voice, and a secret in her heart. She’s the one who’s winning the sympathy and advocacy of everyone around her.

She’s the gal who knows all too well that her job now is to ‘turn it on’ for the camera and keep her lies straight — nothing too complicated, foreign, or unbelievable.

She’s the clever cutie who finds it so incredibly easy to point her crooked finger in the direction of the black man in time of trouble.

Now, that’s believable!

She’s also the woman embarrassing her family — often taking unsuspecting family members down with her; using to her advantage the justice system, and leaving victims to pick up the pieces of their shattered lives in her wake.

If you don’t know her — you may know of her in a different variation. Trust me, you do. Just think about it.

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